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The Man in the Middle

by Michael Foster for Nerve magazine, 1997

Letha and I were naked in the mineral water Jacuzzi when Charlie knocked at the glass door.  He couldn’t see in but he was carrying a cordless phone. This is a small hotel in the hills above Palm Springs. Not much English spoken, which is why we were hiding out here. I wondered if my wife Barbara was calling from Marrakech. No, it was my publicist, and he was asking me to explain my menage a trois–living with two women–for over a dozen years. The ups, downs, little dramas and large contentment–in no more than 1,500 words.

For me the three-style in love affairs started in Brooklyn when I was four. I had two little girlfriends and the three of us would play doctor, nurse and patient. We learned what we could about each other’s anatomy. The prepubescent affair was terminated when my dad moved us way out to Long Island, but I never forgot the feeling of two females fussing over me. When I started to read novels, I would get upset if the hero had to choose between his two loves. Why couldn’t he keep them both? I figured I could because of my karma, though I didn’t know the word then. Once you hear the siren song of a threesome, you’ll know why it beats any other intimate arrangement–at least for the man in the middle.

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The Wife with a Double Life

by Barbara Foster for Nerve magazine, 1997

Civilized Frenchwomen — George Sand, Colette and  Simone de Beauvoir are my role models.

   For years, by choice, I’ve sawed myself in half emotionally in order to live a double life: daytimes a married academic, night times a Greenwich Village free spirit. A coterie of friends were hip to the masquerade; the less familiar know me as a librarian scholar engaged in research on women’s studies. One self displays a bookish facade; its shadow craves adventurous travel with lots of fucking on the side. Since each face is fed a nutritional diet, neither feels deprived. The bourgeois and the anarchist have learned to live together.

Before marriage I suffered from mental and physical constipation. Once my soul mate appeared to whisk me away from a stark parental home, the flow started. Not that I was beaten or abused –just bored to death in Philadelphia. Marriage brought me an expensive love out of a Russian novel. For several years we had great sex that precluded outside involvements. Monogamy, the first stage in our romantic cycle, gave way to a “tolerant marriage” then an “open marriage.” Some years later this evolved into a successful working ménage à trois that incorporates our significant other, Letha Hadady.

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About Barbara Foster (AKA Belladonna)

Barbara and Michael Foster married at 20 and soon decided a typical marriage was not for them. They went separate ways with other lovers, but continued to live and work together co-authoring several books. During summers in Vermont and winters in Miami, she visits Michael and Letha, but Barbara is heart and soul a Bohemian from Manhattan’s Greenwich Village. She is a poet and her first book is a tell-all memoir (Confessions of a Librarian: A Memoir of Loves.  (Riverdale Avenue Books: 2015) about her double life as a daytime Hunter College librarian and nighttime “culture vulture” “hotsy totsy”  sexy world traveler. She loves attending New York’s lively theater, dance performances, poetry readings, and burlesque clubs.

Her writing skills include in-depth historical research for books written by her historian, biographer husband Michael Foster. Her professional experience includes: Assoc. Prof. at CUNY, specializing in Women’s Studies. She has published print articles on education and travel and as “Belladonna” over 200 poems in journals in various countries. She was a “referee” for the Royal Geographical Society. She lectures frequently in the U.S. and abroad and has packed auditoriums from Washington’s Smithsonian to Cal Tech, Sidney, Buenos Aires, and Prague. She was selected as a Speaker (on Adah Isaacs Menken) by the NY State Council on the Humanities and has appeared in the media and often publishes Net articles.

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About Michael Foster

Novelist, biographer, and historian, Michael was born in Brooklyn and believes he got his talent for telling stories from his Russian blacksmith grandfather.

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The Philadelphia Inquirer (LifeStyle Section)

Sunday June 29, 1997

Their menage a trois is as loving and healthy as any traditional monogamous union, argue the authors of a new book. But can a threesome survive in the long run? By William R. Macklin

The authors of “Three in Love” – Barbara and Michael Foster and Letha Hadady say they have a strong bond that is intellectual, emotional and sexual. Blame it on Paris. The lights of the Eiffel Tower, the swell of traffic around the Arc de Triomphe, the hypnotic reflections of the Seine – who wouldn’t fall in love? And right across from the library where Michael Foster was researching his latest book, seated at one of those delicious Parisian cafes, was a pretty blonde.

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