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3somes in Movies, TV and Life

Butch, Sundance and Etta

New York magazine:

Gossip Girl’s recent three-way raised the ire of the Parents Television Council, who called the scene “reckless and irresponsible.” The three-way (as distinct from the ménage à trois, technically only a living situation), has historically been the domain of artists and rebels, and is frequently portrayed by Hollywood.

“A Short History of Three-Ways” NY Magazine: November, 2009

As related by Barbara Foster, Michael Foster, and Letha Hadady (who have themselves lived as a threesome since 1981) in their book, Three in Love.

1742: Casanova loses his virginity, at the age of 17, to two sisters.

1882: Friedrich Nietzsche, Paul Ree, and Lou Andreas-Salome live together in Rome.

1926: “Ernvest [Hemingway] was sleeping with [wife] Hadley and making love to Pauline in [Antibes’] secluded coves; the three would eat breakfast in bed together.”

1930: Bonnie and Clyde recruit 17-year-old William Jones to assist in robberies and, allegedly, to service both of them sexually.

1940s: According to a biographer, sculptor Alberto Giacometti “sometimes liked a third person present at moments of physical intimacy.”

1952: Neal Cassady tries to persuade his wife Carolyn and Jack Kerouac to try “a three- way ball.” Kerouac is unable to perform.

Sometime between 1960 and 1963: “A brief, most unusual threesome took place during the painting of [Salvador Dalí’s] Venus Awaiting a Phone Call, whose model was Ultra Violet, an actress from Andy Warhol’s Factory. The third was a lobster.”

So How Common Are Three-Ways in Real Life?
Number of NYC Craigslist “Casual Encounters” threesome ads by gender breakdown during a recent seven-day period.

The Man in the Middle

by Michael Foster for Nerve magazine, 1997

Letha and I were naked in the mineral water Jacuzzi when Charlie knocked at the glass door.  He couldn’t see in but he was carrying a cordless phone. This is a small hotel in the hills above Palm Springs. Not much English spoken, which is why we were hiding out here. I wondered if my wife Barbara was calling from Marrakech. No, it was my publicist, and he was asking me to explain my menage a trois–living with two women–for over a dozen years. The ups, downs, little dramas and large contentment–in no more than 1,500 words.

For me the three-style in love affairs started in Brooklyn when I was four. I had two little girlfriends and the three of us would play doctor, nurse and patient. We learned what we could about each other’s anatomy. The prepubescent affair was terminated when my dad moved us way out to Long Island, but I never forgot the feeling of two females fussing over me. When I started to read novels, I would get upset if the hero had to choose between his two loves. Why couldn’t he keep them both? I figured I could because of my karma, though I didn’t know the word then. Once you hear the siren song of a threesome, you’ll know why it beats any other intimate arrangement–at least for the man in the middle.

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The Wife with a Double Life

by Barbara Foster for Nerve magazine, 1997

Civilized Frenchwomen — George Sand, Colette and  Simone de Beauvoir are my role models.

   For years, by choice, I’ve sawed myself in half emotionally in order to live a double life: daytimes a married academic, night times a Greenwich Village free spirit. A coterie of friends were hip to the masquerade; the less familiar know me as a librarian scholar engaged in research on women’s studies. One self displays a bookish facade; its shadow craves adventurous travel with lots of fucking on the side. Since each face is fed a nutritional diet, neither feels deprived. The bourgeois and the anarchist have learned to live together.

Before marriage I suffered from mental and physical constipation. Once my soul mate appeared to whisk me away from a stark parental home, the flow started. Not that I was beaten or abused –just bored to death in Philadelphia. Marriage brought me an expensive love out of a Russian novel. For several years we had great sex that precluded outside involvements. Monogamy, the first stage in our romantic cycle, gave way to a “tolerant marriage” then an “open marriage.” Some years later this evolved into a successful working ménage à trois that incorporates our significant other, Letha Hadady.

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Entertainment Weekly: “Racy & Engaging!”


Writers: Michael Foster, Barbara Foster, Letha Hadady; Genre: History

Book review by L.S. Klepp:

July, 1997

Three’s company and two is downsizing. At least that’s life as seen through the six eyes of the authors, who tell us they’ve had their own menage a trois since 1981 and have written this book — a history of threesomes — to establish a pedigree. But in spite of some sketchy psychology, they have a point — well, maybe three points. Threesomes have been overlooked when not moralistically slandered; they aren’t necessarily perverse or unstable; they turn up frequently in life and art. The book offers the familiar (Lord Nelson and the Hamiltons; Henry and June Miller and Anais Nin) and some surprises (a Communist menage for Lenin, a Nazi one for Goebbels, an Imperial Twilight one for Nehru and the Mountbattens). There’s also the occasional grating noise of a definition being stretched (the Marquis de Sade’s sex life was more menagerie than menage). It’s racy and engaging, even if you think three is still, in general, a crowd.

The Philadelphia Inquirer (LifeStyle Section)

Sunday June 29, 1997

Their menage a trois is as loving and healthy as any traditional monogamous union, argue the authors of a new book. But can a threesome survive in the long run? By William R. Macklin

The authors of “Three in Love” – Barbara and Michael Foster and Letha Hadady say they have a strong bond that is intellectual, emotional and sexual. Blame it on Paris. The lights of the Eiffel Tower, the swell of traffic around the Arc de Triomphe, the hypnotic reflections of the Seine – who wouldn’t fall in love? And right across from the library where Michael Foster was researching his latest book, seated at one of those delicious Parisian cafes, was a pretty blonde.

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